If you’re like me, it’s hard to be patient. I’m in a waiting game right now. My whole journey since my kidney cancer diagnosis in February has been one delay after another.
My urologist in late February referred me to the University of Washington. But wait! The UW has to process that referral and get approval from my insurance.
My referral was approved and a surgeon was selected to cut out the cancer. But wait! She’s not available to meet with Vicki and I until March 30.
Dr. Sarah Psutka recommends a partial nephrectomy surgery at our meeting. But wait! She tells us she’s booked out and doesn’t think she can do it until the summer (as it turned out, the surgery date was set for May 20).
Dr. Psutka tells us the surgery was a success. The cancerous tumor was removed and there’s no cancer “in the margins” or surrounding tissue. But wait! The drain tube I’m sent home with fails. I begin running a fever, an infection develops, and on June 5 I’m back at UW Hospital for doses of antibiotics. A new, more sophisticated drain tube is placed. Dr. Psutka says there’s a small urinary leak in my kidney that hasn’t healed.
The new drain tube I’m sent home with is working. I feel good. I have no more fever. But wait! Weekly tests for creatinine levels from fluid in the drain tube are higher than they should be. The urinary leak isn’t closing up.
I have a second, less-invasive surgery on July 7 called a “Cystoscopy with Retrograde Pyelogram and Ureteral Stent Insertion.” They found the small leak and closed it off with a temporary stent that is supposed to divert urine away from the kidney and surgical site to let it heal. But wait! My next appointment to see if this is working isn’t until July 23.
So that’s where I am. Still in the waiting room.
As Americans who live in a fast-paced culture, we struggle mightily with waiting. Technology has made us less patient. We’ve conditioned our brains to expect instant gratification. Because high-speed internet and one-day delivery by Amazon rewards us without delay, we get frustrated when daily processes – whether it be the loading of a website or simply waiting for the traffic light to green while giving in to the urge to look at our phone – take more than a few seconds.
I’ve learned from experience that my sense of timing is vastly different than God’s. God has His own timetable. You may have heard this joke that refers to how time flies in the divine realm:
A man is speaking to God and asks, “God, now long is a million years to you?
God answers: “To Me, it’s about a second.”
The man then asks, “God, how much is a million dollars to You?”
God answers, “To Me, it’s like a single penny.”
The man thinks for a moment, gets a hopeful look in his eye, and asks, “God, could you give me one of your pennies?”
And God cheerfully replies, “Sure! Just a second.”
It’s a lighthearted take on the scripture passage 2 Peter 3:8, which says “with the Lord one day is like a thousand years, and thousand years are like one day.”
I’ve learned over the years God is not a vending machine. You don’t press a button, and get what you want right away. If that were the case, we’d probably be spoiled brats. Sometimes the answer is “yes.” Sometimes the answer is “no.” Sometimes the answer is “not yet.” A delay is not necessarily a denial.
Many people have been praying for me. I have felt those prayers. It shouldn’t be lost on me that I am cancer-free. Vicki and I, however, pray daily for complete healing. I feel like my life has been “on hold” for nearly two months. With two different sets of “plumbing for bodily fluids,” it’s difficult to go anywhere in public. We’re missing out on “summer.” I’m largely housebound – and sadly, so is Vicki, who’s been a great nurse and support by the way! I know I couldn’t do this alone.
For whatever reason, I’ve had to walk this path. This is another setback. There have been more times in the middle of the night when things have seemed hopeless. But there’s also been times when a scripture or podcast I’m listening to addresses the specific affliction I’m going through, and gives me hope. In those instances, I choose worship over worry, and praying over panic.
I’m hoping when I come out the other side, I’ll be more appreciative of my overall good health that I’ve taken for granted, have more empathy for people who are cancer-ridden and struggle daily with chronic pain and disease, and be more grateful to a God who has richly blessed me in so many ways.





